We can all become healthier and get closer to our goals — Anyone!
It doesn’t matter what you have done in the past. It doesn’t matter if those things worked for awhile then fizzled out. It also doesn’t matter what’s coming up in the future such as vacations, weddings, birthdays or the kiddos going back to school. ANYONE can do it!
I’d like to point out that their’s also nothing horribly wrong with you if you haven’t figured out how to do it yet! Losing weight or hitting your fitness goals (whatever they may be) is a loaded topic! There’s a TON of information out there and everyone has an opinion and thinks their method is the best. There’s options on low carb/high fat, high protein, should you move more or move less, should you count calories or macros…the list goes on and on.
What I have found is that people have the perspective of talking about weight loss or any fitness goal to be similar to talking about money or sex. Hear me out ☺ There are those that simply don’t have enough money or sex and feel completely stressed and crappy about it and those that have a desired amount or feel they have more than enough and are made to feel guilty for being ‘well to do’. When it comes to our weight loss goals – we simply don’t want to talk about it. Why? Because 1) we don’t want others to know that we are insecure 2) we don’t want to be judged for wanting to lose weight or getting healthier or have the worry that we will be judged based on our success or lack of success 3) FEAR!
Fear of putting ourselves completely out there and investing into a program only to not
Fear of going all in and succeeding only to still be terrified and waiting for the
moment we relapse.
Fear of succeeding and worrying about how people will treat us – do they think we act
differently? Have their opinions of us changed for the worse? And so on.
Here’s the good news y’all – We ALL struggle! We all have a conflicted relationship with working out, with eating healthier and viewing our goals as a ‘diet’ or as a lifestyle. It comes down to ONE thing between the people who succeed and not succeed – which let me say….just because you feel that someone is crushing their health and fitness goals, they may actually think they are not succeeding. We don’t know their goals or what struggles they are having at the moment so while everything may ‘seem’ great and they are totally crushing it…they may be feeling different. Now, back to my thought ☺ That ONE thing that separates the people who succeed from the people who don’t succeed is making a — DECISION! A decision that they make once and for all to confront what’s holding them back known as their fear or LIMITED BELIEF.
Let me give you an example. Up to about six years ago I was a constant yo-yo dieter. I would use food and alcohol in bursts to mask my feelings rather than deal with them because I hated confrontation. I would purchase a workout program, go strong for several days then one rest day would turn into two, three, four, etc. I found that I was leaving my food intake and workouts up to chance because I wasn’t planning what I was going to be eating nor was I scheduling my workouts. Before I would know it, it was meal time and I would grab for the very first thing that I could find because I was starving. Then 9:00PM would come around and I still hadn’t worked out so I would take a ‘rest day’ and say ‘I’ll double up tomorrow’ only that NEVER happened. During this time I also only used the scale to track my progress. By doing this I would allow that number on the scale to control my thoughts and my feelings for the day. Low and behold it would also control if I gorged myself with food or not which if I’m being honest happened often. If I lost a couple of pounds I thought ‘I deserve to treat myself’ but that little treat would turn into a downward spiral. On the flip side, if I gained weight I figured why am I bothering? So again, I would give into food.
During the last six years I have been able to transform my mindset regarding my relationship with food, working out and how I talk to myself. Do I still struggle? Of course but by making that DECISION to confront my fears – my limited belief that I attached to myself I have been able to accept my journey and be at peace with my progress. Now, instead of using food or alcohol to cope with my depression or a stressful day, I use my workouts and personal development. I have found that by eating more nutrient dense food and limiting highly processed foods my brain works better, I have more energy, I sleep better and I’m just happier. Also by setting aside 15 minutes each day to either read or listen to some kind of personal development topic such as how to cope with emotional eating, how to deal with toxic people, how to increase my self confidence I have been able to change the way I speak to myself and others. The other thing that I do is every Sunday I sit down and plan out my meals for the week and which workouts I’ll be doing. I truly believe that being prepared leads to success. Why? Because during the week there’s less thinking. There’s less of a chance to talk myself out eating healthy or getting my workout in. By knowing exactly what I’m eating I can just make it and by knowing exactly which workout I have planned for they day means I can just do it. That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle from time to time but trust me by having all of this planned, it allows me to take a minute or two, have a conversation with myself where I remind myself of my goals and ultimately I decide to crush it. Lastly, I have learned to use the scale as a tool and nothing more. I also started using other tracking methods such as measurements, weekly progress photos, how I feel and how my clothes are fitting. All of that information is just data that we can use to measure our success. We cannot put too much dependency on one of those tools….it’s a tool nothing more!
Here’s the thing, if more of us would take the amount of time that we focus on our fears or our excuses and instead invest that energy and time into DECIDING, COMMITTING & DOING, guess what would happen? We would then be a couple of steps ahead and closer to our overall goals. However, our human instinct is to rationalize, defend and accept our self-imposed limited belief. But here’s the thing, each one of us has the power to CHOOSE and CREATE realities that totally kickass! We each have one shot at being the individuals we deserve to be. Why not be the most happiest, fulfilled human beings we can be?
Here’s my hope…that you really use what I mentioned today to reflect, to tap into your heart and have a new outlook. One that you put into place instead of succumbing to your doubts and fears. The road will be bumpy but along the way you will become stronger and a major ass kicker! And…if you need help, someone to cheer you on or be a support system – I’m here! Me along with an awesome community that I have build to hold myself accountable along with other ladies and men that have decided to make this shift. Now…it’s YOUR turn!
P.S. If you have made the DECISION to COMMIT and go ALL IN email me at JenniferHepkaFitness@gmail.com and include what you are wanting to achieve along with what you are struggling with. I can get you plugged into the proper virtual community that will help you break away from the limited belief and finally have a STRONG belief in yourself!